10 pro-active motifs for creating satiating vulnerability

Ideas & Questions that get you to dance with the intelligent energetics of your boundary system for profound relational growth.

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” — Brené Brown

1. To live free of our walls and armor is to step into the way of the warrior. Our armor and walls are acts of the loyal soldier - immature yet- at the time -effective survival techniques that enabled us to create self-protection, boundaries and containment when we were children. As adolescents and adults we often build on this foundation until we actively decide to deconstruct. 

“...vulnerability feels like courage”. I love this sentiment.

What does courage feel like in your body?

To me it feels like a combination of opposite feelings vying for the win: muscular and mental tension kissing discomfort + exhilarating potency of present moment awareness.

We risk in the right amount for us when we intuitively lean into the discomfort and the exhilaration. We expand our capacity little by little as we heal.

There are self-intelligent boundary energies that allow this to happen energetically, intuitively without thinking about it.

2. To be truly vulnerable we allow ourselves to be seen in our humbled, imperfect, mistake-making messy selves BUT WE ALSO allow ourselves to be seen in our power, in our gifts and talents, in our strength of character, we allow ourselves to have an impact on another and take 100% responsibility for that impact.

The sensation of having an impact on another might be unconsciously overwhelming. It has been for me, until I made it conscious and have agreed to feel the sensation of “impact.”

Wisdom says that we are more afraid of our power than we are of our defectiveness. Honestly, most of us are quite comfortable with self-defamation. Which aspect is more difficult for you?

3. When we become willing to feel all the sensations (or just more of the sensations), we become more vulnerable.

How willing are you to feel yourself without dodging the discomfort? Can you catch yourself in the moment? This is the undying power consciousness of somatic tracking.